Wednesday, July 31, 2019

Polyamory, The New Gay Marriage

            Psychologists based at California universities are leading the American Psychological Association (APA) in putting together a task force to study “consensual non-monogamy,” in order to reduce the stigma attached to those who practice it. The Golden State shrinks hope to promote “awareness and inclusivity about consensual non-monogamy and ‘diverse expressions of intimate relationships.’” (Well, I personally start with a goat, two dildos, eggnog, a turkey baster, and a can of spam…”). 
            The APA’s task force Division 44 website proclaims: "Finding love and/or sexual intimacy is a central part of most people’s life experience. However, the ability to engage in desired intimacy without social and medical stigmatization is not a liberty for all. This task force seeks to address the needs of people who practice consensual non-monogamy, including their intersecting marginalized identities. The APA Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force promotes awareness and inclusivity about consensual non-monogamy and diverse expressions of intimate relationships. These include but are not limited to: people who practice polyamory, open relationships, swinging, relationship anarchy and other types of ethical non-monogamous relationships." Relationship anarchy? Sounds like what people with more than two kids experience.
            Division 44 also sports a Religion and Spirituality Task Force, with the professed desire to “reduce theological barriers often separating sexual minorities from the sources of their beliefs." (I hate to be an old fuddy-duddy, but sometimes those barriers were placed there for a good reason). Those wishing to become task force members are asked whether they agree with a series of statements such as: “I support generating research and promoting awareness of issues facing individuals engaged in consensual non-monogamy with multiple marginalized identities,” and “I support including consensual non-monogamy as a legally protected class.” Multiple marginalized identities? MMI?
            Heath Schechinger is a psychologist at the University of California-Berkeley and co-chair of the APA’s Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force (DFFCN-MTF). His website says he “specializes in providing sex therapy and working with alternative relationships and lifestyles, diverse sexualities, couples/partners, and infidelity,” and adds that he “has considerable experience in working with concerns related to polyamory/open relationships, kink, TGNC/NB, and LGBQIA.” Kink? Do we have to add a ‘K’ to LGBTQIIA?” I honestly did not know what TGNC/NB stood for. Sadly, after a little research, that is no longer the case. It stands for the “Transgender, Non-Conforming, Non-Binary” community. “LGBTGNC/NBQIIA+?”
            Reactionary, stick-in-the-mud, old curmudgeons like myself have long warned that the legalization of same-sex marriage would render marriage meaningless. After all, if marriage has naught to do with procreation, then why shouldn’t three men or four girls and a horse be able to legally marry? “Love is love,” right? There’s no more to it than that.
In an email to LifeSiteNews, psychologist Daniel Boland, an APA member for over 50 years, said of the polyamory taskforce: “The APA has abandoned all respect for fact-based research and scientific tradition. It has capitulated to the most unstable, most radical elements in our society.” He added, “Its abandonment of its original professionalism renders it no longer credible to the public or to its members.”
            As others have noted, this is what happens when ideology replaces science. And it is happening ever more frequently across multiple disciplines.
            Much as with gay marriage in years past, polyamory is gaining acceptance in popular culture. Willow Smith, singer-- and daughter of actor Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith-- recently declared herself polyamorous. The 18-year-old said she is equally attracted to men and women and averred that she would find fulfillment in a relationship with two other people. That particular arrangement is apparently known as a “throuple.” (As in, “Nobody knows the throuples I’ve seen!”). Willow recently told something called Red Table Talk, “I love men and women equally, and so I would definitely want one man, one woman. I feel like I could be polyfidelitous with those two people." How charmingly old-fashioned.
            And polyridiculous.

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