A new trend has been launched on Instagram, in order to combat “rape culture.” The trend? New mothers are asking their infants for “permission” to pick them up before actually doing so.
According to Heatst.com, the trend began a few weeks ago after Nisha Moodley, mother of 6-month-old Raven, made an Instagram post featuring a selfie with her son and an explanation of her new parenting style, complete with an “endrapeculture” hashtag. Moodley claims to be able to “feel for his ‘yes’” after she politely asks him if she can hoist him up. (“Raven” is a he?).
I have tried to “feel for her ‘yes’” on a number of occasions, but these were all adult women who were old enough to talk. Is this really a good idea when it comes to one’s infants? Should we also get an infant’s “permission” to feed them, change their diapers, give them medical care, or put them to bed?
Apparently so, according to Moodley: “Since the moment he was born, we’ve always asked before we pick him up. I always feel for his ‘yes.’ Why? Because we want him to know that his body is his, and that others’ bodies are theirs, and no one gets to make choices about someone else’s body.”
Tell that to Planned Parenthood and the 300,000-plus mothers each year who abort their children. Please.
Moodley, who also uses #lessonsinsovereignty and #bornfree in her posts, added: “It always touches my heart when someone takes a moment to connect with him and says “Can I hold you, dude?”
“Can I kill you, dude” doesn’t sound as sweet.
No less a luminary than “parenting expert” Sharon Silver avers that Moodley’s parenting methods are “correct,” according to Yahoo News. Silver told Yahoo: “This idea is part of the wonderful [‘Recourse of Infant Educarers’ (RIE)] parenting philosophy, which is essentially respecting a child’s timetable and allowing him or her to participate in the full range of experiences as the result of a decision. It’s the underlying premise of positive parenting.”
The RIE website offers a new book titled: “Baby Knows Best.” I see. It wasn’t that long ago one of the top-rated television shows was called: “Father Knows Best.”
It’s no wonder there are fewer and fewer fathers. And fewer and fewer babies.
I guess it’s true: You’ve come a long way, baby.
But you probably already knew that.
May I change your diaper? I'll "feel" for your "yes."